To My Son(s): Letters from a Mother Who Dreamed You First is a heartfelt and courageous book that speaks to the emotional, spiritual, and cultural layers of raising boys in today’s world. Rooted in the author’s deep desire to one day become a boy mom, this 12-chapter collection combines storytelling, reflections, prayers, affirmations, and real-life conversations—offering a tender but honest look at what it truly means to raise emotionally present, value-rooted men.
Written from the perspective of a woman preparing her heart before her sons arrive, Nicole tackles complex themes such as absent fatherhood, cultural silencing of boys’ emotions, healing childhood trauma, and building safe spaces for boys to feel without shame. Drawing from Zimbabwean cultural context, personal mentorship experiences, and the story of a man who disclosed, for the first time, how his first sexual encounter as a boy was actually rape. This book does not shy away from the hard truths.
With affirmations and prayers interwoven throughout—for the boy child, the parent raising him, and the girl child walking beside him—this book is a guide, a mirror, and a love letter.
It is a gift for mothers, fathers, educators, and cycle-breakers who are committed to raising a generation of boys who grow into healed, wholesome and emotionally intelligent men.