You know how, at most bridal showers, the syllabus is always the same?
We are taught how to endure.
How to hold the home in hard times.
How to manage when money is tight.
How to support a man through struggle.
How to pray, fast, and be “strong.”
All important — absolutely.
But here is what nobody prepares us for:
What happens when your husband becomes a millionaire?
Because life doesn’t only test couples in the valley.
It also tests them on the mountain.
And the truth is… most Bridal Shower teachings don’t prepare the girl child for elevation.
They prepare her for survival.
Not strategy.
Not alignment.
Not mental expansion.
Not partnership at a higher level.
I thought about this because of a girl I learned with in high school.
We’re not best friends, but we’ve kept in touch over the years.
Late last year, her husband closed a deal that shifted their entire life.
The man became a literal millionaire — not through noise, but through real work.
And when I heard the news, I genuinely celebrated her.
But a thought rose quietly in me:
“Who prepares the married woman for a rising marriage?”
We teach her how to handle struggle,
but not how to handle success.
We teach her how to hold on in drought,
but not how to position herself in abundance.
We teach her how to carry burdens,
but not how to carry influence.
Because when a man’s life elevates:
• His conversations change.
• His strategic thinking changes.
• His circles change.
• His opportunities change.
• His pace changes.
• His exposure changes.
And marriage is partnership — not spectatorship.
You cannot afford to be the wife who only knows how to “pray through struggle,”
but does not know how to stand confidently in higher rooms.
And this is where the PA conversation becomes real:
When a man rises, the PA is naturally exposed to his new world.
Not romantically — but practically.
She knows the deals.
She sees the pressure.
She hears the plans.
She grows mentally with the pace of his career.
Meanwhile the wife…
if she does not grow intentionally…
remains in the version of life she was taught at the bridal shower.
Not because she is weak.
Not because she lacks value.
But because no one prepared her for elevation.
So girl child, here is my heart:
When your husband rises — rise with him.
When your home elevates — elevate your mind.
When the life changes — adjust your strategy.
Understand his industry.
Study his world.
Learn the pace of his calling.
Grow your thinking.
Evolve your presentation.
Position yourself as a partner — not a spectator.
A rising marriage needs a rising woman.
Not for aesthetics.
Not for show.
Not out of fear of a PA.
But because elevation without alignment
creates gaps that wisdom could have prevented.
Girl child, may we expand the Bridal Shower syllabus.
Prepare women for valleys and mountains.
For struggle and abundance.
For pressure and prosperity.
Because marriage isn’t just about surviving together.
It’s about rising together.
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