Young women, surround yourself with women who speak healthily about relationships and marriage.
Not perfectly. Not idealistically. But with truth, balance, and maturity.
Because here’s what I know:
Unions were beautiful from the beginning.
God designed them to be desirable — and they still are.
But in today’s world, we’re handed so many distorted versions of what love and commitment look like, that we start questioning if it’s even worth it.
We need spaces where we can be reminded that healthy relationships still exist — even in a loud world that glorifies detachment, fear, and emotional chaos.
Surround yourself with women who:
* Talk about building, not just benefiting.
* Understand that submission and leadership are not weapons but responsibilities.
* Are not bitter, but also not blind.
* Can celebrate your season without pressuring your timeline.
* Know that love isn’t about noise, but depth.
We need older women who are honest about the work love takes — and younger women who are willing to learn and unlearn.
We need to bring back conversations that inspire belief in partnership — not just survival in it.
Relationships are still a gift.
They are not outdated. They are not overrated.
They are not a sign of weakness or desperation.
And if you’re a young woman reading this:
Be intentional with the voices you allow to shape your view of love.
There is no shame in desiring a healthy union. That desire is still good.
And if you’re a woman with a few more years and a bit more wisdom:
Don’t withhold it. Someone needs your story to believe again.
Because in this generation, healthy love is still worth talking about.
Be cautious with what you decide to consume online. Always use a thinking man’s filter.
With grace ,
Nicole R. Marara