There is an influencer—well known, followed, respected—who built a strong voice online speaking against unions, against marriage, against having children.
She was bold about it.
And many listened.
Many followed her thinking.
Many reshaped their lives around what she said.
Some even left their relationships.
Some developed deep resentment toward men.
She became a voice.
A guide.
Almost… a standard.
And now?
Her engagement pictures are online.
She is a bride-to-be.
Life is moving.
A union is forming.
And suddenly… people are confused.
Shocked
Trying to reconcile the message… with the reality.
Let’s pause.
Because this is not about her.
This is about something bigger.
The power of social media.
Today, it is very easy to log onto the internet and find someone with a large following and immediately assign them authority over your thinking.
You start to draw inspiration.
You start to be mentored… without even knowing them.
You start to adopt their beliefs… without questioning them.
And that is where the danger begins.
Because the internet is not a real place.
It is curated.
It is controlled.
It is selective.
You are seeing what someone has chosen to show you.
Not the full picture.
And yet… decisions are being made from it.
Life-altering decisions.
Relationships ending.
Beliefs shifting.
Foundations being shaken.
And we don’t ask enough questions.
What is the spirit behind this message?
What is the intention?
What is the foundation of what is being taught?
Because not every loud voice is a truthful one.
Not every confident opinion is wisdom.
And this is where I want to speak to the girl child.
If you have not developed yourself…
If you have not discovered who you are…
If you have not grounded your beliefs…
Be careful.
Because the internet will shape you.
Quickly.
Loudly.
And sometimes… wrongly.
We are now in a space where the internet is louder than even the sermons we sit under.
Louder than guidance.
Louder than wisdom passed down.
And that is not something to take lightly.
Because if you don’t know who you are…
Someone else will define it for you.
If you don’t have your own convictions…
You will borrow someone else’s.
And the problem with borrowed convictions is this:
They don’t always fit your life.
So question things.
Don’t just consume.
Don’t just adopt.
Think.
Reflect.
Discern.
Because at the end of the day…
Not everyone who speaks to you online…
Is equipped to lead your life.