Reflections & Lessons

There are graves of women in the church that people like to spiritualize. We are told, “It was God’s time.” We are told, “She fought a good fight.” We are told, “She was a strong woman of faith.” But if we are honest —…

Because I’ve written a book for the boy child, something interesting has been happening… I am holding more conversations with men than I ever have in my life. And the honesty they bring is teaching me things I wish more people knew. Recently, one…

We need to talk about how families and churches handle rape and molestation — not in whispers, not in secrecy, but in truth. Because the way these issues are often handled has left lifelong wounds on people who deserved protection. Some families have mastered…

There is a woman I know only through social media. We have never met in person. She lives in another country, far from my world, far from my circles, far from anyone who knows me. We don’t have daily chats. We don’t exchange stories….

You know how, at most bridal showers, the syllabus is always the same? We are taught how to endure. How to hold the home in hard times. How to manage when money is tight. How to support a man through struggle. How to pray,…

I was in a public space when two women started talking loudly near me. They were laughing — the kind of laughter people use when they think they’re being funny, but the joke is cutting someone else deeply. One of them said, “Ha! How…